“Practice with the bodhisattva attitude every day. People can’t see your mind; what people see is a manifestation of your attitude in your actions of body and speech. So pay attention to your attitude all the time. Guard it as if you are the police, or like a parent cares for a child, like a bodyguard, or as if you are the guru and your mind is your disciple.”
‘You offer water, flowers,incense to the Buddha. By offering these beautiful things. Several things happen.
One, you start to create a detachment from these things. Does that mean you become a cold uncaring nobody that hangs out on the streets, just a beggar, a homeless person? No. A detachment from things is to have things and it doesn’t create suffering or not having it doesn’t create suffering.
Objects don’t become causes for you to suffer anymore. So you start creating a positive detachment to things. That’s one.
Two: You create a positive purification to miserliness, selfishness, greed and we can let go of things easier. When we are less greedy, less miserly, what’s the results? We have a little less money but we have more happiness. Have you heard the saying?
(The best wealth that we can have is the one we have given away)
Not the wealth we kept.
That doesn’t bring any happiness. Isn’t that wise? Let’s think about that again.
So by offering these things, They are not gold bars, they are not businesses. They are water offerings, beautiful offering items, everyday you practice. Giving. And it leads to something deeper.
It leads to emotional giving. Some of us can give money away. Easily. But we can never be wrong. I know people like that. They can give money away very easily, buy anything for you. They love you, they tell you they love you. They can give anything away but emotionally they can’t give away. They never can be wrong. They will never confess they are wrong, they rather hide their wrong, and lose everything. Than to confess they are wrong.
And that is the highest sort of miserliness you can experience. Why? Cause that type of miserliness makes that person not respected, not loved, dejected and it makes them know they are not doing the right thing. So it leads to that. It leads to what? It leads to emotional giving in a good way.
Highly realized practitioners can give up their wife, or not have one for you. Meaning they can spend their whole life as dharma practitioners. Monks or nuns. And not be attached to partners. For you. It’s a giving.
People who have to have a wife, have to have a husband, have to have a partner, and that overrides Dharma. They are actually not giving.
So they are very far away from Buddhahood. There’s no Buddha that needs a consort. There’s no Buddha that needs a partner. There’s no Buddha that needs a wife or a husband. If they needed one, it would be a Buddha.
So therefore, the highest practitioners, they can come back life after life happy and single.
Really happy and single. Not frustrated. You know how some people say “Oh I’m happy to be single” but you know they are not. It’s just that they can’t get anybody. So they pretend that they are happy but they are not.
But they won’t be happy being non single either.
Because their happiness doesn’t come from being single or non single. So what happens?
The highest form of giving is emotional giving.
To be able to easily let go of one’s attachments.
Imagine telling a person: “Oh, can you be a nun?” They will say no. Why? “Oh I can’t, I need a boyfriend.” Or “can you be a monk?” “Oh I can’t, I need a wife. Or I need romance. But I want to practice giving.” I’m like okay.
It doesn’t match. Those people they in fact hamper their spiritual growth. Is it possible to have a spiritual relationship with a partner and they can help each other grow? Yes definitely possible. There are people who can be with their partners, and they can grow together and help each other grow. It’s definitely possible. But that one we have to check out ourselves. When we are with our partners, so we want to do more? Do we become better? Is our minds more focused? Are we accomplishing more? That’s what we need to check with ourselves.
So to be Buddhist practitioners do we need to be always single? Not necessary. For some yes, it is necessary.
Just like for some, they need to take the vow of not taking alcohol. Because by drinking alcohol they create violence, unhappiness in people’s lives. So for some people, they need to take the vow.
But for some, they no need to take the vow, cause for them taking alcohol is to relax, just make others happy, it’s a social thing, doesn’t create anything. So it’s ok.
It’s not the alcohol that’s the bad karma, it’s what you do with it.
So it’s not your partner, your wife, your boyfriend or your alcohol or your fun, or your branded stuff that makes you a better person or that’s bad. It’s what you do with it afterwards.
So if you take branded things, and you become arrogant, you want to go around showing off to other people and put other people down or you want to show you’re somebody. Then that branded item creates negative karma for you. So it’s not the branded item, it’s your mind. So what should you do?
Don’t have branded items for the moment.
Because you’re suffering when you don’t have it. It means you definitely do not need it. That’s how we check ourselves. But be honest with Buddha.
If you can’t be honest with Buddha, then you will never be Buddha and progress on your spiritual practice. ‘
– His Eminence Tsem Tulku Rinpoche
Homage to the Buddhas of the past, present and future.
Homage to Dipankara, Shakyamuni and Maitreya.
Homage to my precious Gurus, Buddhas & Sangha in all directions.
Without Dharma, life is but a meaningless cycle,
a robotic existence with a mundane existence.
Family, friends or foes , what difference is there?
When there is gathering, there is separation.
When there is birth, there is death.
Birth, aging, sickness and death.
All is inevitable.
But with Dharma, living has a purpose.
Avoiding the unvirtuous, applying the methods daily.
Cultivating one’s mind towards compassion.
Increasing one’s wisdom with Buddha’s spoken nectar.
You become aware of samsaricness within and around.
If you feel for a moment any joy in this existence, know that it’s temporal.
If you feel for a moment any sadness in this existence, know that it’s temporal.
If you feel for a moment any anger in this existence, know that it’s temporal.
If you feel for a moment any disappointment in this existence, know that it’s temporal.
Our body is filled with filth, blood, stools, flakes, bile, stones, impurities, bacteria and yet we cling onto this body like it is so precious.
We adorn it with perfume to musk our odor,
we adorn it with fine apparel to appear attractive to others,
we put on colors on our faces to appear attractive to others,
we change our hair color to appear as a different identity,
we cover our graying hair to hide our aging.
Women adorn little clothes to attract the attention of a mate,
what difference does this differentiate us from a peacock attracting a peahen with array of colors and dance?
Women adorning long fake eyelashes to batter at men,
what difference does this differentiate from a camel having luscious lashes to keep out the sand?
Women wearing skimpy tops to show their cleavage,
what difference does this differentiate from a cow showing off her udders?
All appearances are but temporal.
All are aging with every minute second, yet everyone behaves like death is so far away.
But when death comes, all tremble before it.
For all spent their life frivolously.
All refuses to see the goodness in being vegetarian,
All enjoy gathering, sharing recipes. Skinning, picking out and hammering bones. Seasoning and boiling to a stew and garnishing.
All enjoy feasting on the flesh of others like flesh devouring beasts.
All enjoy gathering, hunting and fishing, where one feels the thrill of hunting down a poor helpless being.
Many adversities happen after, then one blames it on ‘unluckiness’.
We caused them pain, they caused us pain back. Isn’t this plain cause and effect?
The effect will happen immediately or later. All’s dependable on when’s the right time for karma to strike.
Then who else can we blame but ourselves?
When death approaches, the ones whom you feasted upon will drag you into the depths of hell in chains seeking redress of grievances to Yama the Lord of Death.
By then, the only cries you hear will be the cries of you and countless others who are of the same in molten cauldron while wasting away the human body on meat feasting and gathering.
A man telling a woman he loves her (vice versa), oh what blasphemy.
A woman asks a man what does he love about her? He answers “Everything”.
Oh what blasphemy.
If she loses her arms, would you still see her the same?
If she loses her legs, would you still see her the same?
If she cuts off her locks of hairs, would you still see her the same?
If she loses her sight, would you still see her the same?
If she loses her hearing. would you still see her the same?
If she loses her speech, would you still see her the same?
If she is child barren, would you still see her the same?
If her mouth stenches of rotting teeth and gums, would you still see her the same?
If her face was filled with wrinkles, would you still see her the same?
If she loses her breasts, would you still see her the same?
If she doesn’t want to have any bodily sexuality with you, would you still see her the same?
If she doesn’t fulfill her wifely duties, would you still see her the same?
Oh what lies does a woman like to hear and words a lustful man would say.
When a human craves for nothing but sexual companionship their whole life,
they waste away their precious time trying to find the ‘perfect’ partner.
And not before long, all who are so attached to their spouse, loses them to death.
& soon after they follow.
Since they longed for each other so much while as humans, they take rebirth as swans or mandarin ducks. A lifelong companions in the animal realms. Oh what pity it is to waste away the human life on this grasping.
May one grow up to be a Bodhisattva.
May all always remember the kindness of their Gurus.
May all be filial to their parents.
May all impart the precious gifts of Dharma to one’s parents to repay their kindness.
May all remember the kindness of their parents, 7 lifetimes of parents and ancestors.
May all have a renunciation mind from young.
May all never use the media to view lustful acts of videos or images.
May all avoid masturbation to avoid increasing the lustful habituation.
May all avoid the unvirtuous and cultivate the virtuous.
May all remember and repay the kindness of others always.
May all transform their bad character tendencies into good quality character tendencies.
May all promote the benefits of vegetarianism, liberating animals and repentance.
May all who can’t calm their agitated minds, start loving the quietness of meditation.
May all who are gossipy, never judge others and hold back their tongues in conversations.
May all enjoy solitude and to never seek the companionship of others to feel wanted.
May all never be greedy in acquiring new objects to resolve attachment to senses.
May all never let greed take over when in business or job.
May all never gamble away riches but use it freely to benefit the impoverished.
May all never smoke away riches but use it freely to benefit the impoverished.
May all never drink away riches but use it freely to benefit the impoverished.
May all never eat away riches but use it freely to benefit the impoverished.
May all never sing and dance away riches but use it freely to benefit the impoverished.
May all never lavish on fancy clothes or rides but use it freely to benefit the impoverished.
May all never be grasping to money but use it freely to benefit the impoverished.
May all be a benefit to society and help to give back anything within their means.
May all never forget to dedicate merits to all who are in existence.
May all never forget to vanquish the thirst and hunger of the hungry ghosts.
May all feed the tiny insects and birds with sugary drinks and seeds.
May all feed the strays and never choose to ignore their pains.
May all never be in any business that involves the harming of beings.
May all never do the acts of killing, hunting or abortions.
May all never create premarital sexual misconduct.
May all never commit adultery or cheat on their partners.
May all help to preserve and spread the precious Dharma to others.
May all not use Dharma to make monetary out of it for one’s own benefits.
May Dharma be given freely to all. Whether a beggar or a king.
May all practice equanimity to all beings.
May Hinayana, Mahayana and Vajrayana practitioners be in harmony and unbiased towards any schools.
Tsem Rinpoche: Praise to Avalokitesvara, the supreme Lord of Compassion. A true teacher will be kind to all levels of people and will not see the differences between them except how to be kind and benefit them. He looks upon them to relieve their sufferings to some degree. A true follower of this teacher will do the same in order to follow the teacher’s footsteps. Therefore a disciple who wishes to please a TRUE teacher will be humble, take care of the teacher’s circle of students and people and treat everyone well. When we treat the teacher’s people well, we treat the teacher well. When we are kind to everyone, WE PLEASE THE TRUE TEACHER TREMENDOUSLY because a true teacher only wants the best for us and the best is to have a kind and generous and unbiased mind. When we are kind, we benefit ourselves and others so much. To be humble is to gain and earn everyone’s respect and open the Vajra Yogini (Buddhahood) nature within us. To be biased is to keep the Vajra Yogini nature locked away. Our goal as a spiritualist is to open the Vajra Yogini nature inherit in all of us. Sarva Mangalam. Tsem Rinpoche
Tsem Rinpoche: The amount of suffering, fear and pain they have to experience should be experienced by no one whether animal or human. It is heartbreaking to continuously see the sufferings animals endure for our ‘pleasures’. I do feel helpless, but helpless or not, we must create more awareness tirelessly. With awareness, their suffering can eventually be reduced. The ones who are slaughtered, it’s too late. We can only shed tears but we have to still be concerned about future slaughter of animals and try to prevent. Helping and being kind to animals is not spiritual, strange or unnatural, but pure empathy of understanding their pain in that no sentient beings would want to suffer. Tsem Rinpoche
Tsem Rinpoche: I rarely feel lonely. I am quite fine being alone. I sometimes feel more lonely with many people than I do by myself. Tsem Rinpoche