Training shouldn’t be optional

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People willingly sign up to endure tremendous training, challenges, physical ‘torture’, mental ‘torture’, ‘abuse’ and even put themselves in situations that endanger their lives as you see in this incredible video. This is for the betterment of this life alone. Need we say more for future lives? A must watch short video in any case. They are taunted, made fun of and even encouraged to quit by superiors and peers. People can say this is psychological and mental abuse and the people who ‘perpetrate’ this are cruel and vicious. But remember, you signed up and you opted for it. You had a choice, so there is no victim card here to play. To get through it will toughen you up for life’s vicissitudes, hardships, realities, disappointments and really just make us accept life’s realities. Which makes it easier for ourselves and everyone around us because we accept, understand and well prepared. To expect something according to our projections and not getting it most of the time leads to bitterness and depression. Pretty much the sum of our lives in samsara. Some make it and many don’t from this tough training. Out of 150 that signed up, 42 made it in this incredible training which really represents life. The rest quit.

Some of the ones that quit complained, said it was too hard, inhuman, not achievable and even can cite psychological damage because of it. But all in all, it is training. And this is for the body and mind. This is for secular success. This reminds me of the monasteries. This reminds me of even organized Dharma centres and some of my tough gurus. You are put to training in many methods by the teacher and whether your teacher is a monk or drill sergeant if you want the results you go for it. Be just as committed as your trainer. You are being trained by people who know their stuff and committed themselves. Committed themselves to the training and to training you. You have to comply, do the training and then only you can enjoy the results. The results can last for your whole life and in spiritual terms for lifetimes. It is never handed to you. If you fail, you can blame the teacher, but then if you blame the teacher, everyone must have failed. Not everyone fails but you failed so it can’t be the trainer. Even the majority can fail and it is still your fault because that is usually what happens with tough and real training. Don’t revel in your failure just because you have many peers that also failed. Failure is failure. Some even encourage others to fail so they are not alone in failing. I’ve met people like that. They encourage others to leave the dharma centre, the retreats, guru, practices, their faith, samaya, commitments, meditations and works so when they leave, they are not alone and feel as bad or look as bad. Once they leave, what do you have to offer them? Back to the exact same thing they did before they joined the dharma or training. Why join, if everything was perfect? That does not make it better long term, because you still failed. The tougher the training, the more real the Dharma and the more honest it is, in all likelihood, more will quit citing abuse, too tough, not worth it or even saying they felt trapped. But then the trap is not the training in the Dharma. Because training in the Dharma is teaching you how to leave your samsaric trap and not stay in it. When you fail, you don’t escape but in actuality you stay exactly where you are. If where you are was fine, why did you enter the training in the first place? Dharma training is tough. Any training is tough.

Training is tough. It was tough with my gurus. It will be tough because our mind is tough. We fill our minds with all types of comforts and habituated views of how things should be and when it is not like that, we give up. We love to blame the trainer, the path, the Dharma, the method and all of that. But what people need to understand is, yes the training was hard, but did the trainees make it harder because they were spoilt, had wrong views, hung on to their comfort zones and refuse to really change? Are all trainees trainable immediately? Are they all cooperative and compliant and really willing to make a difference? Or when their most secret comfort zones were infringed upon, they left? Leaving is one thing, being bitter is an excuse to cover failure because you chose to join in the first place. No one forced you. You take responsibility for the choice. How to break away from samsara when you are still stuck in trying to be comfortable? Being comfortable actually has no place in spiritual or physical training. Achieving something has no room to be comfortable. Success and comfort are never in the same continuum. Success does not come from being in a state of comfort but challenging ideas and habituations that continuously keep us tied down to the deceptions that comfort zones, money, acquisitions, romance, travel and entertainment is the purpose of our lives. Anything you have now was either given to you for free or you worked past your comfort zones to achieve them. After you ran away screaming from the training, what did you achieve in your life that was substantial? Did you just go back to sleeping late, some feel good meditations, meeting friends, surfing on the net, travelling, eating, social occasions, endless dinners and non-stop holidays? Holidaying from what? You don’t really work much to even need a holiday? Maybe you even took up a course or two at a school, ‘busy’ on a blog, occasional unsuccessful dabbling in exercise, some self-help readings, dabble in the occult to divine for a  comfortable future? Maybe just nothing? You went back to what you were doing prior to the training. Now you have to justify to yourself and others why you quit the training. We can be honest or we can deceive for face saving purposes on why we really quit. You don’t go back to doing the same thing and more of it citing training was insane. What is insane is your blindness to see your comfort zones will lead you not where you wish but where you don’t ultimately desire. Maybe you will make a dent in this world for the better by quitting but most likely not. Because hard work, long hours, commitment, passion, consistency and sacrifice of comfort are the universal ingredients necessary for the outer journey and even more so for the inner journey. Whatever journey we choose and hopefully it will be both for our sake, by remaining in comfort zones, this will take time as well as overcoming comfort zones to inner success. Both take the same amount of time and time is used. One does not bear results and the other one does. Don’t waste time. It’s our choice, don’t blame if we quit. Better is to swallow the ego for our long term benefit and get back into the training. The journey does not end at death unfortunately and fortunately. This continues into the bardo and future lives. The Buddha was not wrong. The harder the training seems to be is a clear indication to ourselves of how far behind we are. How much we need it. All the more reason to train. For some it takes tremendous efforts to reach a goal and for others seemingly very fast. Whatever it is for us, start and keep at it.

As we age, get sick, wrinkle, slow down and all types of diseases invade our body let us know that time is shorter, all the experiences we had in the travels, food, romance, fun, kids and all that materialistic world had to offer will not help us one iota at the time of death. All the conversations we have with friends, kids, partners and so on will not help us in anyway. The experiences will just disappear as fast as the experience themselves. To experience something for the sake of experience is like gathering water in a cup with holes to drink. When the four elements shut down within our bodies, and the inner winds gather and when we are about to black out from consciousness forever, even the best friends and partners holding our hands will be of no help. We won’t even be conscious of them being there and holding us at the last stages. Then karma who is ever present takes over as it has been all along but more so now because we don’t have the physical to grasp onto anymore. Your wealth, experiences, position, power, name, poverty, beauty, friends, houses, properties, views, political stance, loans, savings, pets are all not going to help you. When you enter the bardo, only the karma you have accumulated in the positive will assist you now. The genuine meditations, the mantras, saving of animals, benefitting other beings, retreats, donations, offerings on your shrines, prayers to the enlightened ones, guru samaya, generation of the altruistic aspiration, altruism, destruction of dual view, works that benefitted others, releasing of phenomenal grasping, release of projections and attainments will help you and can help you. Everything else you spent time on when you were alive besides the spiritual attainments will be of no help. Your lifetime of experiences accumulated from books, people, travel, cultural learning, foods, money, savings, poverty, partners and positions will not be of any help and will be forgotten. You sink into black oblivion. Your possession that you held onto will be falling into the hands of others very soon. The oblivion is totally black for the time being prior to leaving our bodies. A journey into fear, the unknown and perhaps pain if we are not spiritually aware. Not studying a map prior to reaching a fork in the road, can lead you to the wrong direction. Not preparing spiritually and fool-heartedly engaged in only samsaric pursuits will bear its frightening consequences now. If you don’t like what you are reading, don’t blame me, but these are the condensed form of the teachings of the omniscient Buddha. I am not negative, or trying to psyche you or frighten you for the sake of it. If you feel frightened, it is because you are not prepared, not because I frightened you. I cannot frighten you about something that is not true because you can investigate yourself. Fear arises from knowing the truth of our existence if we do nothing about it. The truth is living a life of just enjoyments will use up the karma that supported it as Kensur Jampa Yeshe told me. But fortunately if you are reading this now, it means you can do something now. Start now. No more excuses and procrastinations. Even if you quit in the past, start again and don’t quit. Remember, consistency is the key. The key that opens the door to your vast inner attainments, true freedom, omniscience and finding your luminous Buddha nature. That is what Buddha Shakyamuni did. That is why we ‘worship’ and follow him. Why else do we follow him? Stop praising, chanting and meditating on what Buddha did to become a Buddha and nothing more, but engage in the same path Buddha completed. Please do it now. Actually just do it. No more excuses, justifications and taking refuge in a all saviour like comfort zone that is deceptive. Deception is impermanent too. No matter how many go along with your self deceptions and how good of a friend they are, deception will ripen into deep regrets. Friends that encourage quitting or deception may come and go but our sufferings remain. Remember, the Buddha’s wisdom in his teachings surpasses any views our ‘friends’ may have. Buddha’s wisdom is based on total lack of ignorance while our friend’s knowledge is based on pure limitations and obstructed by karma. Buddha’s omniscience also surpasses any form of education, knowledge, ‘wisdom’ and experience that can be offered in this world. No knowledge by ordinary humans can ever surpass the omniscient Buddha’s wisdom. Follow Buddha.

So why are we so into everything that does not help us physically at the time of death and mentally and karmically? Because we have not studied, allocated the time for it, applied and lived Buddha’s teachings completely. We are not bad, but ignorant. But even ignorance is a chosen path and not inherently forever. We only surrendered to materialism because we are familiar with it and we did not surrender to our true selves, our true Buddha nature within. We did not submit to the truth of the Dharma yet. Everything we do now will be of no use if it has not been directed towards the inner attainments that Buddha so clearly spoke about.

This training video is powerful. Be best friends with determination, hard work, grit, sacrifice, consistency and results. Abandon enemies such as laziness, excuses, justifications, blame, distractions because they are bad friends to be with. Remember 42 passed the training out of 150. That means 108 persons found excuses, reasons, justifications to quit. That is the majority. The quitters will probably regret, curse, hate or talk about the nasty training to friends and family for the rest of their lives. Even perhaps will say they were mentally damaged because of it. Even if you quit, walk away nicely, don’t blame. Because blaming is playing the victim card to cover up. Many suffer much more than you and they succeed even more because they don’t quit. It’s just like in many Dharma centres including my own that I experienced for the last 40 years that more quit or sit on the side-lines than achieve. If you ask them to go slightly beyond, they will cite very quickly all the reasons they can’t, but the truth is they are unwilling because the ravages of karma has not caught up yet. Or perhaps karma has caught up. But the truth is training does not damage our minds, but comfort zones do. How can we leave samsara, the very place that deceptively shows us temporary comforts, by staying comfortable and not doing more, not achieving more of the inner journey? Training is hard. But do it. You are worth it. Do it long term and never give up. The more we put it off the more old age, sickness, inabilities, graspings, ‘responsibilities’, karma, habits and peers will creep in to ‘confirm’ we cannot do it. Don’t be okay with mediocre. Don’t be fine with failure. Don’t be fine with half past six results. Don’t be fine with non-completion. Because future regrets are changeable if we do something now. Complete the training. Stop being so eloquent and creative with excuses. You fool no one but yourself. You set bad examples. Complete the spiritual training. Be trained. After training you will realize and ask yourself why you endured so much unnecessarily for so long. Buddha is an example of a fully trained being.

Tsem Rinpoche

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scorned yet Loyal

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“If others should speak negatively about my guru or his practices, then be it they are a guru themselves or students, it will not affect my mind. I remain firm on the path given to me and I practice diligently.”

“Others may criticize my guru, his lineage, his practice, his methods, but I will remain unshaken in order to develop perfect devotion leading to samadhi.”

~ Tsem Rinpoche

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(Images) by His Holiness The Seventh Dalai Lama

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O guru inseparable from Manjushri and Consort,

Whose blessings fulfill all needs

And grant every mystical attainment,

Bestow upon me your transforming powers.

Hundreds of flies gather

On a piece of rotten meat,

Enjoying, they think, a delicious feast.

This image fits with the song

Of the myriads of foolish living beings.

Who seek happiness in superficial pleasures;

In countless ways they try,

Yet I have never seen them satisfied.

The bee of golden stripes

Flies from flower to flower,

Never pausing but for a moment.

This image fits with the song

Of the people of this degenerate age,

Who, powered by impure mind,

Change from friend to enemy in a moment;

I have never found a reliable one.

The turquoise fly of special hue,

Fills its stomach with excrement,

And then takes its load and wings proudly away.

This image fits with the song

Of those who polish and flaunt with pride

Their body-sack punctured by holes for the senses

And filled with bone, blood, pus, and urine.

The song of the fly, the boring buzz,

For a moment is sweet to the ear,

But, empty of meaning, it can please not for long.

This image fits with the song

Of how praise and the sound of one’s own name

Please the mind for a brief moment

And then fade to emptiness.

I have never seen them have lasting effects.

The six-legged wasp is proud in summer

To fly for a moment in merriment and pleasure,

But soon he will die from the cold.

This image fits with the song

Of the young man, handsome and robust,

Who stands strong, confident, and bold,

Not thinking that death soon will come

And lead him helplessly away.

The bee with its bee-perception

Seeks not medicinal plants

But follows the perfume of ordinary flowers

This image fits with the song

Of how most people of the present day

Turn away from saints and holiness

And, deluded, prefer to follow

Worldly men of wealth and power.

The bee, which depends on the flower,

Drinks its fill of nectar

And then shamelessly flies away.

This image fits with the song

Of how the people of this age

Uses the sages and spiritual masters

Who love and work for them;

And then they abandon them as enemies.

The young, freewheeling bee ties himself not

With attachment to places or friends;

He flies happily wherever he likes.

This image fits with the song

Of how those not bound by clinging

To the sensory objects of the world,

From the depths of their hearts aspire

Only to practice meditation and yoga

In peaceful, remote forests.

It is the last month of summer now;

Red and yellow flowers are in bloom.

A hot mid-day sun hovers above;

The flies and bees, friends of melancholy,

Dance and play before me

In a scene of honey revelry.

I, a vajra who opens in melody, watched them

And wrote this song of straight lines.

Giving

‘You offer water, flowers,incense to the Buddha. By offering these beautiful things. Several things happen.
One, you start to create a detachment from these things. Does that mean you become a cold uncaring nobody that hangs out on the streets, just a beggar, a homeless person? No. A detachment from things is to have things and it doesn’t create suffering or not having it doesn’t create suffering.
Objects don’t become causes for you to suffer anymore. So you start creating a positive detachment to things. That’s one.
Two: You create a positive purification to miserliness, selfishness, greed and we can let go of things easier. When we are less greedy, less miserly, what’s the results? We have a little less money but we have more happiness. Have you heard the saying?
(The best wealth that we can have is the one we have given away)
Not the wealth we kept.
That doesn’t bring any happiness. Isn’t that wise? Let’s think about that again.
So by offering these things, They are not gold bars, they are not businesses. They are water offerings, beautiful offering items, everyday you practice. Giving. And it leads to something deeper.
It leads to emotional giving. Some of us can give money away. Easily. But we can never be wrong. I know people like that. They can give money away very easily, buy anything for you. They love you, they tell you they love you. They can give anything away but emotionally they can’t give away. They never can be wrong. They will never confess they are wrong, they rather hide their wrong, and lose everything. Than to confess they are wrong.
And that is the highest sort of miserliness you can experience. Why? Cause that type of miserliness makes that person not respected, not loved, dejected and it makes them know they are not doing the right thing. So it leads to that. It leads to what? It leads to emotional giving in a good way.
Highly realized practitioners can give up their wife, or not have one for you. Meaning they can spend their whole life as dharma practitioners. Monks or nuns. And not be attached to partners. For you. It’s a giving.
People who have to have a wife, have to have a husband, have to have a partner, and that overrides Dharma. They are actually not giving.
So they are very far away from Buddhahood. There’s no Buddha that needs a consort. There’s no Buddha that needs a partner. There’s no Buddha that needs a wife or a husband. If they needed one, it would be a Buddha.
So therefore, the highest practitioners, they can come back life after life happy and single.
Really happy and single. Not frustrated. You know how some people say “Oh I’m happy to be single” but you know they are not. It’s just that they can’t get anybody. So they pretend that they are happy but they are not.
But they won’t be happy being non single either.
Because their happiness doesn’t come from being single or non single. So what happens?

The highest form of giving is emotional giving.
To be able to easily let go of one’s attachments.
Imagine telling a person: “Oh, can you be a nun?” They will say no. Why? “Oh I can’t, I need a boyfriend.” Or “can you be a monk?” “Oh I can’t, I need a wife. Or I need romance. But I want to practice giving.” I’m like okay.

It doesn’t match. Those people they in fact hamper their spiritual growth. Is it possible to have a spiritual relationship with a partner and they can help each other grow? Yes definitely possible. There are people who can be with their partners, and they can grow together and help each other grow. It’s definitely possible. But that one we have to check out ourselves. When we are with our partners, so we want to do more? Do we become better? Is our minds more focused? Are we accomplishing more? That’s what we need to check with ourselves.

So to be Buddhist practitioners do we need to be always single? Not necessary. For some yes, it is necessary.
Just like for some, they need to take the vow of not taking alcohol. Because by drinking alcohol they create violence, unhappiness in people’s lives. So for some people, they need to take the vow.
But for some, they no need to take the vow, cause for them taking alcohol is to relax, just make others happy, it’s a social thing, doesn’t create anything. So it’s ok.
It’s not the alcohol that’s the bad karma, it’s what you do with it.
So it’s not your partner, your wife, your boyfriend or your alcohol or your fun, or your branded stuff that makes you a better person or that’s bad. It’s what you do with it afterwards.
So if you take branded things, and you become arrogant, you want to go around showing off to other people and put other people down or you want to show you’re somebody. Then that branded item creates negative karma for you. So it’s not the branded item, it’s your mind. So what should you do?
Don’t have branded items for the moment.
Why?
Because you’re suffering when you don’t have it. It means you definitely do not need it. That’s how we check ourselves. But be honest with Buddha.
If you can’t be honest with Buddha, then you will never be Buddha and progress on your spiritual practice. ‘
His Eminence Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

 

Quotes by His Eminence Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

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Tsem Rinpoche: Praise to Avalokitesvara, the supreme Lord of Compassion. A true teacher will be kind to all levels of people and will not see the differences between them except how to be kind and benefit them. He looks upon them to relieve their sufferings to some degree. A true follower of this teacher will do the same in order to follow the teacher’s footsteps. Therefore a disciple who wishes to please a TRUE teacher will be humble, take care of the teacher’s circle of students and people and treat everyone well. When we treat the teacher’s people well, we treat the teacher well. When we are kind to everyone, WE PLEASE THE TRUE TEACHER TREMENDOUSLY because a true teacher only wants the best for us and the best is to have a kind and generous and unbiased mind. When we are kind, we benefit ourselves and others so much. To be humble is to gain and earn everyone’s respect and open the Vajra Yogini (Buddhahood) nature within us. To be biased is to keep the Vajra Yogini nature locked away. Our goal as a spiritualist is to open the Vajra Yogini nature inherit in all of us. Sarva Mangalam. Tsem Rinpoche

Tsem Rinpoche: The amount of suffering, fear and pain they have to experience should be experienced by no one whether animal or human. It is heartbreaking to continuously see the sufferings animals endure for our ‘pleasures’. I do feel helpless, but helpless or not, we must create more awareness tirelessly. With awareness, their suffering can eventually be reduced. The ones who are slaughtered, it’s too late. We can only shed tears but we have to still be concerned about future slaughter of animals and try to prevent. Helping and being kind to animals is not spiritual, strange or unnatural, but pure empathy of understanding their pain in that no sentient beings would want to suffer. Tsem Rinpoche

Tsem Rinpoche: I rarely feel lonely. I am quite fine being alone. I sometimes feel more lonely with many people than I do by myself. Tsem Rinpoche

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Do it Now! – By His Eminence Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

Excerpt from His Eminence teachings in Video 1:

I don’t like talking dharma, listening to dharma, smiling and go home. & nothing happens decade after decade. I don’t like that. I like dharma that manifests into actions. Social actions. Actions that helps others. Actions that benefits others. Even animals.

When we do things for ourselves, it’s very dreary after a while.

Honestly when we die, I think the biggest regret, the thing that makes people bitter. That makes people older bitter, younger bitter or anyone bitter and unhappy and very unsatisfied and unsettled is that your life was worth nothing.

That your life was amounted to nothing. That your life gave nothing. That your life wasn’t worth anything to anyone else that you affected nobody.

So I think the thing that makes people the most unhappy and the thing that makes people the most sad or angry is that they know they lived their lives just taking care of themselves. Just being selfish, just eating and sleeping, and just having kids, or having a few dogs, or just having a car, house, and then everybody has flash in their mind. Is this all? Is that all I have done in my life?

An ant can make a house, a bee can make a house. A bird can make a nest and feed the young. What have I done? So the biggest thing that bothers people is when they look back at their life, they say, what did I do for anyone? And your kids, husbands and wives don’t count. Your partners don’t count.

What did I do for anyone?

How did I live my life?

We should instill our children and young people with a higher thought, the thought of benefitting society. The thought of helping others. The benefits of working and taking time out for others. You know why?

Cause when they get older, they will be happier people, not so bitter. Less crimes, less divorce, less separation, less fighting. Fighting, crime, divorce all comes from dissatisfaction with ourselves. It all comes from that. And if you keep going the same way, get married, just have kids, have a job, just pay your bills, just on weekends go to disco, have some fun, look for boyfriend, look for girlfriend, you know what? You’re totally wasting your time. You’re wasting your time from any angle you’re looking at it.

Totally wasting your time.

Why are you wasting your time?

What’s that going to amount to?

Then you will say oh I’m young, I still have time. That’s right, but you know what? When you’re young, and you do nothing, you end up old and doing nothing.

Do you know why? You don’t become old and suddenly become a saint. You got to have the causes.

People respect old monks because they have created the causes to become monks their whole lives. We really prostrate to them. If you become a monk yesterday, we will say move over.

So a sense of having not done much with our lives, or a sense of using our lives just for ourselves, really really makes people bitter. Makes people unhappy. And you know at the end of their lives, they really feel ugly. ”

“Saving someone’s life wasn’t living how long, it was about how you lived. It was what you did when you are alive. It wasn’t how long you lived. Just eat & exploit the planet. But it’s how you lived.”

“If you lived for yourself, you would be unhappy, you would be angry, you will make people around you angry, you will always make yourself unhappy. Let me tell you why, because you’re angry with yourself. Because you hate yourself. Because you hate what you have become. What you have been doing. What you’re becoming and where you’re going. You hate yourself. And you know what? It doesn’t go away by keeping quiet. It doesn’t go away by hiding. It doesn’t go away if you avoid it. It gets bigger.

And this hatred for ourselves is the causes of our anger. And this hatred for ourselves comes from doing nothing for others. Just me.

People might find and just say, ‘hey, but I’m taking care of my kid, I’m taking care of my wife, I’m taking care of my husband’ that’s not a big deal, everybody is doing that. That doesn’t mean you’re a saint.

It doesn’t mean you have done something extraordinary. ”

“We hate ourselves and we express that anger towards others, you know why? Cause we know we have done nothing in our lives. We know we failed. And you know what? Making a lot of money gives you temporary happiness but it’s not really it. That’s why when people join the dharma centre or church or synagogue or mosque or Sikh temple, it doesn’t matter. And they are doing a great job by helping animal shelters, they help the sick, they help the elderly, and they give and they donate. They feel really good.

You know why?

Cause when they do something good for others, their anger calms down. You know why their anger calms down? They start to feel self worth.

People look for self worth in a relationship. If I get the most beautiful girl in the world, she’s gorgeous, she’s sexy, she’s wonderful, and I walk around with her, I made it. I got it. I’m it.

You can be a tall dark handsome gorgeous stud like I was, then after awhile you end up like this. And this isn’t it. It doesn’t stop here ok?

And if you’re a beautiful princess, you know you got great hair, great lashes, and it’s not even false. And you’re walking around blinking at everybody in KH, keep your blinks to yourself. But you know what? It’s going to fade. And then what? And nothing happens.

So don’t rely on everything external alone. Maintain. Don’t walk outside smelling like garbage and never combing your hair. Maintain yourself. Look clean. But don’t think that that’s it.

So my point is, if you’re always focused on yourself, if you always do things for yourself. And you always work for yourself,you’re going to end up bitter.

You’re going to be bitter. You’re going to hate yourself. You’re going to have a lot of regrets. You’re going to have difficulty sleeping. You’re going to be afraid of death. Do you know why? Cause deep down inside, you know what you haven’t done and have done. So that’s what make people really angry. That’s why when people join a religious organization or NGO, they do things for others, they really feel happy. I mean they get pissed off, angry, they want to leave, they want to quit and all that stuff, that’s normal. That’s in the beginning.

But they feel really happy when they join something. You know why? When they join a church, temple, KH or whatever, and they do work like we have 12 departments. They feel happy. And sometimes they can’t explain why. Let me tell you why.

Cause it helps so many people.”

His Eminence Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

Love Without Agenda by His Eminence Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

A short excerpt from His Eminence teachings in video 1:

“Renounce actually means giving up the methods that brings unhappiness to ourselves & the people around us.

Ego means the mind that cherishes oneself more than others. Every action that we do we feed it. When we feed the ego, when we feed this mind, the lack of awareness for others, through not carrying out responsibilities, through not keeping promises,through not keeping commitments, or not putting efforts.
When we do those actions, what happens? We can explain it in a way to others or friends, but since they are most likely at our level, they can understand it. But the truth of the matter is, we are actually feeding the ego even more. So when we feed the ego even more, the very action the very reason, we cannot give up, becomes the very reason for us to suffer even more.& to create the karmic circumstances for other people around us to suffer even more. So therefore, that concept, is not very hard to understand. It’s something that we are not used to hearing. But when we hear it, whether we accept it at this moment, or engage it at this moment or not, we remain & contemplate n think, cause deep down inside, we feel that it resonates with something. We feel that it is true. That it does make sense. And that’s what keeps us in the Dharma. That’s what keeps us in spiritual practice. That’s what keeps us pushing ourselves towards spiritual practice because these words resonates & also with what we have done with our lives. Not being aware, is a facade of the self cherishing mind.
Example if we prefer reading fashion magazines as compared with Dharma books, very easy to flip through it & we are intensely reading it, we will find that, reading is reading, words is words, meaning is meaning, but one finds one meaning easy & the other difficult. So that’s how we detect our mind. To say we don’t have time to read, or we can’t read, or I’m not really a reader, I’m not able to read, we have to check if our minds are consistent, if it’s consistent or not.
So if our mind is consistent, in all forms of reading, or maybe we are illiterate but most likely that’s not the case, so the important thing is this; If we come across a difficulty, make it simple, it is difficult because we have not pushed ourselves towards that direction. If we don’t push ourselves towards that direction, we may be losing out on something very great, in the sense of spiritual practice. Some people may go through tremendous spiritual hardships or difficulties throughout their lives, one obstacle after another, one suffering, one letdown after another yet they don’t ever stop practicing. But for them, for worldly things, business or cooking, fishing if they are not successful after a few times, they give up. Why? Because their habitations is not towards that. Some people when it’s towards Dharma practice, they give up very easily, but towards fishing, entertainment, singing, laying around or having a good time, they don’t give up easily. Why?
It’s a clear indication of the state of their mind. Again, I want you to get out of the framework that it’s criticism, it’s not. I’m giving you a guideline to check. It may seem like criticism to some people who’s guilty, self guilty of the actions. They will feel uncomfortable but it’s not criticism from me, why? It’s presentation of information. Presentation of incredible information that we can use as guidelines for our lives. For our relationships, for what we want to accomplish, for the  people around us. Therefore, if we always find something difficult, & in this case I’m talking about spiritual practice, then that can be very dangerous for us. Why?
The mind can make many types of excuses, justifications, covers & fears to not engage in spiritual practice. Or while we are engaging, it’s not sincere or real. And the mind is distracted & we fill our time up by substituting it with other things that will make the time go away. So the important factor is we must examine our minds. We must face our minds. If we don’t face our minds, the people we feel secure around will one day be gone, that’s for sure. That’s definitely for sure, or we will be gone before them, if we don’t confront our minds, the very opportunity we have in front of us like health will be gone, or a dharma centre can be gone or closed, or great monasteries have been destroyed, great teachers die, great masters get killed, so when we have this great opportunity in front of us, and we don’t engage in it, what we need to do is; what I was told by my teacher was; to in fact meditate and contemplate, truly meditate & contemplate on the impermanence on everything around us. Whoever we are attached to, wherever we want to escape to, whoever we want to hold onto , whatever that is, we have to contemplate on its impermanence. Why?
Because it’s the ultimate universal truth. Impermanence is the truth that cannot be taken away by any philosophy or religion. To feel the urgency not to lose the chance, that one is not debatable.”

2 short excerpts from the His Eminence teachings in video 2:

-“So what happens is, if you need to speak up & you don’t speak up, if you are quiet & u let it happen, you expect other people to show you the way, or you expect other people to guide you, give you the directions, & you don’t want to be the leading light, you don’t want to be the direction, you don’t want to make the effort, you expect others to do, & if they don’t, then you will say I didn’t get the direction. Then that’s incorrect. Why is that incorrect? To a certain level you are correct if you’re a child, but if you’re an adult, then no. You must make an effort.

Buddha went to the forest & meditated on his own. He didn’t blame other people if he didn’t get enlightened. He did not.
So therefore, what’s important is not to think that our enlightenment is dependent on how other people act towards me. Or my spiritual development is how important people act towards me. How they act towards me does not contribute to that. Why? Then it’s letting laziness take over again. Then if laziness takes over we become disillusioned, we give up, we don’t want to do or we become like Sunday Practitioners we just recite empty & we don’t actually fight it. This is very dangerous. Why? Cause every other day, you are just yourself, you don’t care, but on Sundays you’re all holy smoley. No. So what’s important is; we need to check our mind, clearly. The direction we are going to & we need to ask ourselves one question. & I use this one cause its fundamental for all of us.
If we love other people the way we say we love, and even if they don’t know what we are doing, we know. Especially after we listen to the Dharma. We know. Do we love the people we love? If we love the people we love, then we will stop making excuses for the lack of transformations, Dharma practice & inabilities, we will stop. If we don’t stop, it’s very clear we don’t love anyone but ourselves. But the ultimate joke is; we actually don’t love ourselves cause in the end we are alone & we suffer even more.
So if we love others, if we love the people we love, repaying their kindness, or even not to burden them, we have to transform ourselves. We have to.”
-“So if we have a Lama who’s kind enough to guide us, shows us the way, with no agenda. We should grab that opportunity. If we have met a Lama or an organization or a place that we feel loved, loved on an Ultimate sense, caring for our future & our rebirths, we should grab that chance.

We should promote it. We should sponsor it. We should help it. We should do all the work we can instead of being afraid of commitments, we shouldn’t be, why? It’s the only strand of hope we have for ourselves & others. & not make excuses. Not let time pass by, lose more hair, we lose more of our energy, and our health, how much time do we actually have left? Even the high Lamas have to pass away, I went to my Guru’s funeral recently, they opened a funeral & I saw his body burning in front of me, it woke me up. Why did it wake me up? I would tell you the truth.
I prayed that I will never have relationships in this life and future lives, never. That would distract me away. May I never have children. Never. I prayed in front of his body. May I never be engaged in work that just focuses on making money. & I prayed that if I’m born in a rich country rich family, poor country, poor family, may I use the circumstances to turn it around to bring Dharma to others. That’s what I prayed for in front of his burning body. You wanna know why?
Because I’m scared. I visualize myself inside there. With my legs and body burning away and melting. Scared. You know even when I see his body burning,  I received a holy teaching.”