Quote of the day

“You yourself must strive.
The Buddhas only point the way.
Those meditative ones who tread the path
are released from the bonds of Mara.”

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Giving

‘You offer water, flowers,incense to the Buddha. By offering these beautiful things. Several things happen.
One, you start to create a detachment from these things. Does that mean you become a cold uncaring nobody that hangs out on the streets, just a beggar, a homeless person? No. A detachment from things is to have things and it doesn’t create suffering or not having it doesn’t create suffering.
Objects don’t become causes for you to suffer anymore. So you start creating a positive detachment to things. That’s one.
Two: You create a positive purification to miserliness, selfishness, greed and we can let go of things easier. When we are less greedy, less miserly, what’s the results? We have a little less money but we have more happiness. Have you heard the saying?
(The best wealth that we can have is the one we have given away)
Not the wealth we kept.
That doesn’t bring any happiness. Isn’t that wise? Let’s think about that again.
So by offering these things, They are not gold bars, they are not businesses. They are water offerings, beautiful offering items, everyday you practice. Giving. And it leads to something deeper.
It leads to emotional giving. Some of us can give money away. Easily. But we can never be wrong. I know people like that. They can give money away very easily, buy anything for you. They love you, they tell you they love you. They can give anything away but emotionally they can’t give away. They never can be wrong. They will never confess they are wrong, they rather hide their wrong, and lose everything. Than to confess they are wrong.
And that is the highest sort of miserliness you can experience. Why? Cause that type of miserliness makes that person not respected, not loved, dejected and it makes them know they are not doing the right thing. So it leads to that. It leads to what? It leads to emotional giving in a good way.
Highly realized practitioners can give up their wife, or not have one for you. Meaning they can spend their whole life as dharma practitioners. Monks or nuns. And not be attached to partners. For you. It’s a giving.
People who have to have a wife, have to have a husband, have to have a partner, and that overrides Dharma. They are actually not giving.
So they are very far away from Buddhahood. There’s no Buddha that needs a consort. There’s no Buddha that needs a partner. There’s no Buddha that needs a wife or a husband. If they needed one, it would be a Buddha.
So therefore, the highest practitioners, they can come back life after life happy and single.
Really happy and single. Not frustrated. You know how some people say “Oh I’m happy to be single” but you know they are not. It’s just that they can’t get anybody. So they pretend that they are happy but they are not.
But they won’t be happy being non single either.
Because their happiness doesn’t come from being single or non single. So what happens?

The highest form of giving is emotional giving.
To be able to easily let go of one’s attachments.
Imagine telling a person: “Oh, can you be a nun?” They will say no. Why? “Oh I can’t, I need a boyfriend.” Or “can you be a monk?” “Oh I can’t, I need a wife. Or I need romance. But I want to practice giving.” I’m like okay.

It doesn’t match. Those people they in fact hamper their spiritual growth. Is it possible to have a spiritual relationship with a partner and they can help each other grow? Yes definitely possible. There are people who can be with their partners, and they can grow together and help each other grow. It’s definitely possible. But that one we have to check out ourselves. When we are with our partners, so we want to do more? Do we become better? Is our minds more focused? Are we accomplishing more? That’s what we need to check with ourselves.

So to be Buddhist practitioners do we need to be always single? Not necessary. For some yes, it is necessary.
Just like for some, they need to take the vow of not taking alcohol. Because by drinking alcohol they create violence, unhappiness in people’s lives. So for some people, they need to take the vow.
But for some, they no need to take the vow, cause for them taking alcohol is to relax, just make others happy, it’s a social thing, doesn’t create anything. So it’s ok.
It’s not the alcohol that’s the bad karma, it’s what you do with it.
So it’s not your partner, your wife, your boyfriend or your alcohol or your fun, or your branded stuff that makes you a better person or that’s bad. It’s what you do with it afterwards.
So if you take branded things, and you become arrogant, you want to go around showing off to other people and put other people down or you want to show you’re somebody. Then that branded item creates negative karma for you. So it’s not the branded item, it’s your mind. So what should you do?
Don’t have branded items for the moment.
Why?
Because you’re suffering when you don’t have it. It means you definitely do not need it. That’s how we check ourselves. But be honest with Buddha.
If you can’t be honest with Buddha, then you will never be Buddha and progress on your spiritual practice. ‘
His Eminence Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

 

Quotes by His Eminence Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

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Tsem Rinpoche: Praise to Avalokitesvara, the supreme Lord of Compassion. A true teacher will be kind to all levels of people and will not see the differences between them except how to be kind and benefit them. He looks upon them to relieve their sufferings to some degree. A true follower of this teacher will do the same in order to follow the teacher’s footsteps. Therefore a disciple who wishes to please a TRUE teacher will be humble, take care of the teacher’s circle of students and people and treat everyone well. When we treat the teacher’s people well, we treat the teacher well. When we are kind to everyone, WE PLEASE THE TRUE TEACHER TREMENDOUSLY because a true teacher only wants the best for us and the best is to have a kind and generous and unbiased mind. When we are kind, we benefit ourselves and others so much. To be humble is to gain and earn everyone’s respect and open the Vajra Yogini (Buddhahood) nature within us. To be biased is to keep the Vajra Yogini nature locked away. Our goal as a spiritualist is to open the Vajra Yogini nature inherit in all of us. Sarva Mangalam. Tsem Rinpoche

Tsem Rinpoche: The amount of suffering, fear and pain they have to experience should be experienced by no one whether animal or human. It is heartbreaking to continuously see the sufferings animals endure for our ‘pleasures’. I do feel helpless, but helpless or not, we must create more awareness tirelessly. With awareness, their suffering can eventually be reduced. The ones who are slaughtered, it’s too late. We can only shed tears but we have to still be concerned about future slaughter of animals and try to prevent. Helping and being kind to animals is not spiritual, strange or unnatural, but pure empathy of understanding their pain in that no sentient beings would want to suffer. Tsem Rinpoche

Tsem Rinpoche: I rarely feel lonely. I am quite fine being alone. I sometimes feel more lonely with many people than I do by myself. Tsem Rinpoche

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Quotes from 《Eyes of Compassion 2》 by Venerable Master HaiTao

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“After a Teacher who has real compassion reveals our mistakes, helping us to realize and eradicate these sufferings, then peace and harmony will return to our body.”

“It is not that Bodhisattvas are not blessing you, neither is it that Protectors are not protecting you, it is your incorrect words and behavior that has led to a lack of merit. If you can refrain from bad habits and do good deeds, naturally you will receive blessing and support.”

“From the time we begin studying Buddhism our state of mind should start to show corresponding changes. If we stop pointing the finger at others we will be surrounded by many kind and harmonious people. When we are walking on the path of Bodhichitta we will be more and more similar to Bodhisattvas, thus becoming more and more popular amongst people.”

“Don’t use Buddhist Dharma as a magnifying glass, always picking on the shortcomings of others. Just focus on your own shortcomings and problems, correcting them one by one. Truly reduce your pride and learn to be modest.”

“Don’t talk about the business of others and don’t look at the mistakes of others. Most important is to constantly observe your own mind daily.”

“If one attempts to possess all that one fancies, reject all that one hates, and fret over gains or losses, this not only causes vexations, but also creates karmic causes for descending into the cycle of reincarnation.”

“Visualize yourself reciting the Buddha’s name in a place where there is the most suffering. A lotus flower blooms with each recitation of Amitabha Buddha, and living beings are able to gain deliverance. Recite the Buddha’s name without separation from Bodhichitta, so the recitations do not become apathetic numbers.”

“Buddhist practice starts with having faith in the cause and effect as depicted by the law of Dependent Origination! Whereas ‘effect’ could be seen by others, it’s ’cause’ might only be known mostly by oneself.”

“Many people are unaware that their current blessings are rewards from meritorious virtues accrued during previous lives, and that the supply is limited. If one takes these blessings for granted without realizing and cherishing them, they will be quickly depleted.”

“Greed invariably causes one to have insatiable desires, attempting endlessly to force changes in phenomena for one’s satisfaction. Then when matters turn out contrary to one’s wishes, deep disappointments, various worries and frustrations are brought about. This is what makes Greed fearsome.”

“We should try to make those who like meat abandon their attachment to the taste of meat and wish for the flavor and nourishment of Dharma, treating all sentient beings with the same love they would show their only child, thus encouraging one another and developing great compassion.”

“Although the length of time to eat a meal is brief, but as we make a choice of vegetarian versus meat, the seed of fortune or misfortune will have already been planted in our minds.”

“When we read Buddhist scriptures we are not simply reading the words inside! We read Buddhist scriptures out of consideration for the world around us, and to care for all living beings.”

“Cultivation begins first with building a solid foundation, by living as a righteous and honest person. Secondly, by having remorse for vile deeds. Thirdly, by remaining humble and being content with less desires.”

“True cultivation is when you cultivate regardless of happiness or sadness; you cultivate regardless of ease or difficulty; you cultivate regardless of whether it’s hot or cold.”

“In the eyes of a Bodhisattva, there are no people to despise upon, nor are there any matters to frown upon. For all of us, in order to reach Buddhahood, the beginning lesson is in the path of becoming a Bodhisattva.”

“Please pray sincerely that fish are not tempted to take the bait; animals aren’t caught in a trap and human beings will not kill anymore.”

“By going vegetarian, we are not only savings the animals, but also saving our souls.”

“Break a bad habit and replace it with a good one which is good for you and for all living beings. To cultivate, you need to change yourself first!”

“Those without enough merit often hear rights and wrongs while those with enough merit hear none.”

“Every place of this world could be our Pure Land where we should study and practice benefiting others and spreading compassion.”

“Anger ruins all people with no exception, including yourself. If ever mind gets overpowered by the feeling of anger, peace and happiness would fade away into obscurity.”

“Not pardoning or forgiving others is to give yourself suffering.”

“Those who are always searching for others’ faults to attack will not only lose their temper easily, becoming more and more miserable, but will even adversely affect their own health.”

“In modern society there is a tendency to maintain health by detoxification. This is perhaps just as if not more necessary for our heart, as it is the toxic within, which impacts our life the longest and deepest.”

“There is no need to say anything when angry. Besides telling oneself to calm down, remaining smiling is also a must. Usually this avoids unnecessary trouble and harm to both parties.”

“Swallow your pride and you can learn more, clean out your negative thinking and bad habits to free up space for greater wisdom.”

“A narrow minded person is always stubborn, plagued by pain and hatred. Have ease of mind and allow yourself happiness!”

“If one wants to gain wealth, the most basic discipline one needs to obey is not to steal, not only in this life, but also vow to obey this discipline in afterlives!”

“One who is truly practicing will be grateful and remorseful when in suffering, rather than making complaints.”

“Exchange unwholesome thoughts for faith and love. Substitute beneficial speech for idle chitchat. Replace meaningless activities with bowing and circumambulation of Stupas.”

“The best stratagem for good health and longevity is vegetarianism, by not causing enmity towards all living beings.”

“Assisting those orphaned or impoverished is charitable; persuading people to seek the Dharma is even more so.”

“Worldly people seeking happiness are only increasing their desires, the cravings of which are ceaseless.”

“People in this world like to indulge their desires and never feel contented. This is like drinking water from the sea, which will only make them feel more thirsty.”

“Not only do people need love, but animals also need careful attention and protection.”

“All the suffering you have brought to other living beings will come back to you. No matter what you encounter, don’t blame others, it’s all caused by yourself.”

“Although this world will always make us suffer, never give up your kind heart.”

“Such is a hallmark of pride if one is unable to perceive one’s own faults and shortcomings, while only seeing those of others. It is the root of all suffering.”

“Transformation of destiny begins now – Think good thoughts, speak good words and do good deeds.” 

Selected quotes from<<Eyes of Compassion 2>> <<慈悲的眼睛2》》 by Venerable Master HaiTao.

Venerable Hai Tao Dharma Advice from Myanmar Monks

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-Offering of popcorn n honey to Buddha & dedicate to aborted babies/miscarriage babies for quick swift rebirth.

-Offer ginkgo/Sugar Apple 释迦果to Triple Gems to eliminate strokes
-Unripened Pineapples & honey, refrigerate 2-3 days, eat once a day, to reduce stomach cancer pain.
-For relieve vegetative state patients from that state of suffering, offer coconut rice & smoke offerings to Buddha on Fridays
– Poor eyesight, depression, use olives橄榄 to offer to Triple gems. After which to consume 3 a day
-Use tamarind to offer to Triple Gems, can eliminate heart problems
-For heart problem & high blood pressure patients, offer water to Buddha & offer water for others to consume
– To eliminate depression & sadness, offer up light offerings before Buddha & look at them for 5 minutes.
-For leg pains, before sleeping, immerse legs for 10minutes in warm water with coarse salt. Dry legs with dry cloth. Do not have fan or a/c turned on.
-Sponsoring old folks home with medications, dedicating the merits to drug users to eradicate karma
-Offering coconut water with Mani pills to Buddha, & give drug users to drink, will assist them in eliminating the bad habit
-For headaches, use a piece of brass to touch the painful area. & place it there for 5 minutes to remove pain
-To relieve bodily aches, eat more red dates
-To relieve backaches, before sleep, apply ointment驱风油 & sesame oil麻油 on back areas.
-To relieve coughs, boil ginger & honey to drink. Add 3 pieces of plywood below pillow
-To relieve sore throats, can eat raw aloe vera 蘆薈. For women with menstrual cramps, can eat them too. 1-2inches of aloe vera for 3 weeks
– Use our bodies to help our parents to prostrate/pray to Buddha & dedicate the merits for their good health
– Living in a single parent family since young, can animal liberate a pair of female & male birds, hoping for next rebirth to have a complete parental family
– Parents should offer the kind of flowers they love to Buddha & dedicate for their children to have a blissful life and be filial towards them
– For parents & children who are not harmonious, take your child’s photo, use a red pen to draw a circle. Place it under your child’s pillow for sleep, for effective communication between parents and children
– Offering prayer banners at a Buddha Pagoda佛塔, will make children more studious and better at studying & at work
– Offering walking sticks拐杖to monastics sangha, will in turn let children be more obedient. The virtuous actions will lead the children in the right directions
-For children with a bad temper, can gift the child a fan小扇子accessory in gold or silver & adorn on body. Can eradicate the bad temper.
-When a child doesn’t listen to parents, parents can offer a cup of water to Buddha, & recite this while offering the water :”May my child be obedient & listen to our words.” & then give the water to the child to drink.
– Liberating small fishes can result in a more blissful marriage & successful events
– To minimize quarrels between couples, offer sweets to Buddha
– Falling in love with a person whom you shouldn’t be with, offer vegetarian buns to Buddha. To eliminate the wrongful love/cravings
– For married couples to have a blissful happy relationship, offer 3 vegetarian buns to Buddha on Fridays
– If a married couple’s marriage is on the rocks, use a red photo frame to place the couple’s photo within
– If a married woman is infertile, try liberating small fishes to improve fertility rates. Works best when done personally
– Donating chairs to children’s home or old folks home can improve & eliminate the strained relationships between siblings/relatives/friends
– Offering glutinous rice to Buddha will improve brotherly/sisterly/friends relationships
– Offer 3 lotus candles to Buddha will benefit our existing fathers
– Every Wednesday, Thursday, offer a ceramic bowl with rice to Buddha to eradicate squabbles & bad karmic affiliation between 2 persons. The rice must after which be given to other beings to eat.
– Having daughters at home, offer beautiful clothing to Avalokiteshvara / GuanYin 观世音菩萨 to ensure that daughter will not have sexual misconduct and to eradicate lustful advances. & to have Buddha’s blessings being bestowed. (Offered clothing are not to be taken back but to be handled by temple)
– When family doesn’t like practicing Buddhism, sponsor Sutra/Dharma books to monasteries. Offer 3 cups of tea to Buddha & dedicate to family
– When children are disobedient, offer tea on Tuesdays to Buddha. With a lotus in tea cup.
– Offering bananas to Buddha will ensure financials will not be drained
– For business to be prosperous, offer 3 artificial white flowers to Buddha
– For business to be prosperous, fill a glass bottle with rice husks & place in company. (Alternatively, you can also use white sugar to offer to Buddha)
– When someone wants to inflict harm intentionally unto you, use vegetarian soaps and offer to 5寶(Buddha, Dharma, Sangha, Parents and Dharma Seniors). After 5 days, you can use offered soaps for personal showers
-For individuals who crave masturbating, use a glass cup filled with water, place stones in it. Cover a leaf over the top of cup. Offer to Buddha for 7 days, after which pour it away. Do it consistently and frequently to break away the habitual tendency of masturbation. Can dedicate this to children too, to break away their habitual tendency that increases one’s lust and desire.
– Do this for meat lovers, offer fruits in a covered offering bowl. Upon offering to Buddha, open the cover. Dedicating for the person that his or her cravings for consuming meat will be lessened significantly
– For smokers to eradicate their cravings for smoking. Use a red heart image and draw a white 十(symbols of 2 cigarettes) . & place it under his or her pillow. Change it every 3 days with a new piece.
– Hoping that others don’t smoke or drink alcohol, do virtuous deeds and dedicate merits to smokers and drinkers that they will eliminate this unvirtuous action
– To help the person eliminate boastfulness and lying tendencies, offer peanuts to Buddha on his or her behalf
– To pray for world peace, conduct a 9 days prayer sessions. On the last day, dedicate the merits to all sentient beings for peacefulness. & lastly all to consume sweet desserts.
– If seeking monastic paths as monks or nuns and obstacles arises, use Refuge Name daily instead of birth name. & to make aspiration wishes in front of Buddha for ordination to happen soon.
– Offer popcorn米花 and milk牛奶 to Buddha, especially to Padmasambhava(莲花生大士)

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“SNAKES, ROOSTERS & PIGS (Part 1)” – His Eminence #TsemTulku Rinpoche

A short excerpt from His Eminence teachings in Video 1:

“When we want to go for Dharma, a lot of obstacles happen. Do you know why? It’s the best thing we can ever do for ourselves. When we want to do really good things a lot of obstacles arise. When we want to do not so good things, no obstacle will arise. It is very easy. Good things always have obstacles arise because good things get us good things. So it’s very difficult. In this day & age, Dharma Protector practice is very very important. For those who have correct Samaya, who know how to practice it correctly, it’s very very important. Why?

In this day & age we have much more obstacles than people in the past. People in the past have outer obstacles. Outer obstacles like getting food, crops to grow, weather, ghosts, wars, famine, traveling & bandits. Today, outer obstacles are there, inner obstacles are more. What are the inner obstacles?
Relationships, not having one is an obstacle, having one is an obstacle. Having more than one is an obstacle, having one & wanting another is an obstacle. Having one & not being happy with one is an obstacle. Why?
Then we spend all our time like an animal in heat after this relationship. & then anger, it’s a very big obstacle for all of us. Why? Although physically, all is very convenient. Everything in life is very convenient now. Getting what we want is convenient but there is this dissatisfaction of not finding happiness. Not finding happiness although things are more convenient, creates frustrations & anger.
& anger, when anger arises, I’m not talking about anger that helps. I’m talking about real anger. I’m not talking about a Mother who yells & screams at us because she loves us. I’m talking about anger that you didn’t get what you wanted & someone else did & you’re not happy. When that anger arises, we say things that we regret terribly. We hurt people that we regret. & we do things in revenge. & we get people back emotionally that creates tremendous negative karma for us. Anger is a very big obstacle. Very very big.
Jealousy. Not being able to stand other people having better things than us. & not being able to take what they have. & not being to accept what they have. Those are huge obstacles for us. Huge. & our preoccupation with work, money, many of us are preoccupied with money. & for money, we will do many things that will demean us, that will put us down, that will take us away from who we are. & that will actually make us look very bad to ourselves and bring us into bad habits. For money, we will sink ourselves to the lowest. We will literally kiss anybody, you know what, behind. We will say anything we want to get money. We will be nice to people, we will show a sweet face, we will show teeth. A lot of teeth you know. We will do a lot of things to get money. We will forfeit our Dharma practice, we will break our vows. We will break our commitments & Samaya. & we will work long long hours in hopes of getting money.
Whether we get money or not never mind, we can work 10-15 hours a day to get money. We can travel long distances for money. We can justify to our families & friends for money. We can put away our practices for money. We can even give up our life, our time & our energy for money. We can do all that. Wanting money & needing money is different. 
Wanting money & chasing after it all the time, & using that as a source of so called happiness is a very big obstacle in modern times. I will tell you why; because modern times you have videos, tvs, cds, movies, dvds, you have the west, you have the east, opulence, indulgences, you have the lifestyle of the rich & famous. You have all these famous people who show you the pretty side of having money, but that’s only 5%, the ugly side you won’t get to see. & they promote that and they let you know. Ignorant people will want to believe that, & want to be like them. But when we see all those things, we want it. & that’s a big obstacle, you know why? Cause nowadays there are much more shows on “Wealth”, it increases more desires in us. Cause all the beautiful things you see in wealth are just pictures. They are not real you know? You don’t see what goes on behind. You don’t.
& wealth is a huge obstacle, Huge. & time. Distraction of time. 
Many of us can’t hang out in a room & keep quiet with our-self. We have to be here, go there, do this & that, it’s very hard for us to be with ourselves. Why is it hard for us to be with ourselves? Because, Silence to many of us equates Loneliness. Loneliness is something without activity. & being lonely is something that everybody fears. They fear it very much but they don’t understand, loneliness is a state of mind, not who you’re with. You can be with somebody & you can be totally lonely. You can’t relate with them, you can’t understand them, just because you’re with somebody doesn’t mean you’re not lonely. Some people are with people that makes them feel lonelier. Much much lonelier. Some people are alone but they are not lonely. Lonely is not being with someone or having to be with someone. Loneliness is a state of mind, that we don’t accept who we are inside. & therefore we need to be distracted with other people to make us look away from ourselves. So being lonely is not being with someone or finding someone or having someone. Living under a delusion: ‘ Oh I have somebody, I have a lover, I have a friend, I have whatever & I’m not lonely.’ In fact some of the most loneliest people in the world are people who have somebody. Think about it.
& then we will do everything. We will cook for this person, we will live for this person, we will change our lives for this person, we will do everything for this person. In hopes that we won’t be lonely. But the more we become slaves to these people, the more we become lonely.
We are not a slave to these people, we are a slave to our loneliness. The fear of accepting who we are, who we really are inside. So instead of facing who we are directly, we distract it. With new friends, new scenes, new clubs, new lovers, new sex positions, new clothes.
So loneliness is not being with someone or not being with someone. Loneliness is not accepting yourself. & who you are & what you need to improve. See when we know what is wrong with us, & we keep hiding that, & we avoid certain people, we avoid certain situations, those people & those situations we can avoid, but we can’t avoid ourselves. So when we hate ourselves because of our loneliness, you know what happens?
It’s that wherever we go or whoever we are with, it’s just a distraction. But we have to come home, we have to go to sleep, we have to be alone, we have to drive, even if you’re the busiest person, even if you have to go & take a poop, you have to be alone, I know of friends who need their dog to watch them while taking a poop. I have interesting friends. Anyways,
Loneliness is when you can’t accept who you are. The faults you have inside of you, the good points that you dare not see and it’s hard to be good, because you live in a society that doesn’t teach you to be good. It’s hard to be honest. It’s hard to be straightforward, it’s hard to tell people you’re normal, it’s hard to tell people you don’t have powers, it’s hard to tell people you make mistakes too. It’s hard to tell people that & it’s hard to tell yourself that.
So you become lonely. So how get away from that loneliness?
We find a lot of things to do, places to drive to, people to go with, & every time we eat we need somebody with us, whatever we do, we must have somebody with us. Non stop. Why? Because it distracts us from our loneliness. & that loneliness is not facing who we really are. The good points & the bad points. Another play of ego.
So therefore, in modern life, loneliness is more predominant.
Loneliness is not being somewhere, being something, having something, or being with someone, loneliness is not daring to look at our faults. & pushing towards improvements. & therefore we want to be distracted from what we see in ourselves we don’t like. So we want to have loud music, parties, beautiful people, friends, books, we want to have anything & everything. To not think about what we are inside. & the incredible thing is that, people don’t realize is that, all the effort they put towards looking for relationships, maintaining a relationship, oh my God, just getting a relationship, all the work you have to put into, & once you get it, boy do you get it.
& once you leave it, you’re stuck, you look for another one. And that’s just an ugly cycle that goes on and on and on. & once you’re in this relationship, you’re still very lonely, because if you weren’t lonely, you won’t be looking at everybody passing on the street. You wouldn’t. You wouldn’t at all.
& then we get depressed, we become unhappy, we become more lonelier, we find out the person we are with is not who we thought, is not what we like, they restrict us, they don’t respect us, they cut us down, arguments, disagreements, unhappiness & all that are distractions.
Why are there distractions? Because those things take us away from the real purpose why we are here.
So if you talk to a bunch of Samsara’s people who don’t know anything, of course they agree with you. When you talk to the ‘evil’ Guru from Tibet, he’s going to tell you the opposite right? Because he is ‘nasty’, he is ‘horrible’. He tells us we have to be a better person.”