Excerpt from His Eminence teachings in Video 1:
“I don’t like talking dharma, listening to dharma, smiling and go home. & nothing happens decade after decade. I don’t like that. I like dharma that manifests into actions. Social actions. Actions that helps others. Actions that benefits others. Even animals.
When we do things for ourselves, it’s very dreary after a while.
Honestly when we die, I think the biggest regret, the thing that makes people bitter. That makes people older bitter, younger bitter or anyone bitter and unhappy and very unsatisfied and unsettled is that your life was worth nothing.
That your life was amounted to nothing. That your life gave nothing. That your life wasn’t worth anything to anyone else that you affected nobody.
So I think the thing that makes people the most unhappy and the thing that makes people the most sad or angry is that they know they lived their lives just taking care of themselves. Just being selfish, just eating and sleeping, and just having kids, or having a few dogs, or just having a car, house, and then everybody has flash in their mind. Is this all? Is that all I have done in my life?
An ant can make a house, a bee can make a house. A bird can make a nest and feed the young. What have I done? So the biggest thing that bothers people is when they look back at their life, they say, what did I do for anyone? And your kids, husbands and wives don’t count. Your partners don’t count.
What did I do for anyone?
How did I live my life?
We should instill our children and young people with a higher thought, the thought of benefitting society. The thought of helping others. The benefits of working and taking time out for others. You know why?
Cause when they get older, they will be happier people, not so bitter. Less crimes, less divorce, less separation, less fighting. Fighting, crime, divorce all comes from dissatisfaction with ourselves. It all comes from that. And if you keep going the same way, get married, just have kids, have a job, just pay your bills, just on weekends go to disco, have some fun, look for boyfriend, look for girlfriend, you know what? You’re totally wasting your time. You’re wasting your time from any angle you’re looking at it.
Totally wasting your time.
Why are you wasting your time?
What’s that going to amount to?
Then you will say oh I’m young, I still have time. That’s right, but you know what? When you’re young, and you do nothing, you end up old and doing nothing.
Do you know why? You don’t become old and suddenly become a saint. You got to have the causes.
People respect old monks because they have created the causes to become monks their whole lives. We really prostrate to them. If you become a monk yesterday, we will say move over.
So a sense of having not done much with our lives, or a sense of using our lives just for ourselves, really really makes people bitter. Makes people unhappy. And you know at the end of their lives, they really feel ugly. ”
“Saving someone’s life wasn’t living how long, it was about how you lived. It was what you did when you are alive. It wasn’t how long you lived. Just eat & exploit the planet. But it’s how you lived.”
“If you lived for yourself, you would be unhappy, you would be angry, you will make people around you angry, you will always make yourself unhappy. Let me tell you why, because you’re angry with yourself. Because you hate yourself. Because you hate what you have become. What you have been doing. What you’re becoming and where you’re going. You hate yourself. And you know what? It doesn’t go away by keeping quiet. It doesn’t go away by hiding. It doesn’t go away if you avoid it. It gets bigger.
And this hatred for ourselves is the causes of our anger. And this hatred for ourselves comes from doing nothing for others. Just me.
People might find and just say, ‘hey, but I’m taking care of my kid, I’m taking care of my wife, I’m taking care of my husband’ that’s not a big deal, everybody is doing that. That doesn’t mean you’re a saint.
It doesn’t mean you have done something extraordinary. ”
“We hate ourselves and we express that anger towards others, you know why? Cause we know we have done nothing in our lives. We know we failed. And you know what? Making a lot of money gives you temporary happiness but it’s not really it. That’s why when people join the dharma centre or church or synagogue or mosque or Sikh temple, it doesn’t matter. And they are doing a great job by helping animal shelters, they help the sick, they help the elderly, and they give and they donate. They feel really good.
You know why?
Cause when they do something good for others, their anger calms down. You know why their anger calms down? They start to feel self worth.
People look for self worth in a relationship. If I get the most beautiful girl in the world, she’s gorgeous, she’s sexy, she’s wonderful, and I walk around with her, I made it. I got it. I’m it.
You can be a tall dark handsome gorgeous stud like I was, then after awhile you end up like this. And this isn’t it. It doesn’t stop here ok?
And if you’re a beautiful princess, you know you got great hair, great lashes, and it’s not even false. And you’re walking around blinking at everybody in KH, keep your blinks to yourself. But you know what? It’s going to fade. And then what? And nothing happens.
So don’t rely on everything external alone. Maintain. Don’t walk outside smelling like garbage and never combing your hair. Maintain yourself. Look clean. But don’t think that that’s it.
So my point is, if you’re always focused on yourself, if you always do things for yourself. And you always work for yourself,you’re going to end up bitter.
You’re going to be bitter. You’re going to hate yourself. You’re going to have a lot of regrets. You’re going to have difficulty sleeping. You’re going to be afraid of death. Do you know why? Cause deep down inside, you know what you haven’t done and have done. So that’s what make people really angry. That’s why when people join a religious organization or NGO, they do things for others, they really feel happy. I mean they get pissed off, angry, they want to leave, they want to quit and all that stuff, that’s normal. That’s in the beginning.
But they feel really happy when they join something. You know why? When they join a church, temple, KH or whatever, and they do work like we have 12 departments. They feel happy. And sometimes they can’t explain why. Let me tell you why.
Cause it helps so many people.”