Love Without Agenda by His Eminence Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

A short excerpt from His Eminence teachings in video 1:

“Renounce actually means giving up the methods that brings unhappiness to ourselves & the people around us.

Ego means the mind that cherishes oneself more than others. Every action that we do we feed it. When we feed the ego, when we feed this mind, the lack of awareness for others, through not carrying out responsibilities, through not keeping promises,through not keeping commitments, or not putting efforts.
When we do those actions, what happens? We can explain it in a way to others or friends, but since they are most likely at our level, they can understand it. But the truth of the matter is, we are actually feeding the ego even more. So when we feed the ego even more, the very action the very reason, we cannot give up, becomes the very reason for us to suffer even more.& to create the karmic circumstances for other people around us to suffer even more. So therefore, that concept, is not very hard to understand. It’s something that we are not used to hearing. But when we hear it, whether we accept it at this moment, or engage it at this moment or not, we remain & contemplate n think, cause deep down inside, we feel that it resonates with something. We feel that it is true. That it does make sense. And that’s what keeps us in the Dharma. That’s what keeps us in spiritual practice. That’s what keeps us pushing ourselves towards spiritual practice because these words resonates & also with what we have done with our lives. Not being aware, is a facade of the self cherishing mind.
Example if we prefer reading fashion magazines as compared with Dharma books, very easy to flip through it & we are intensely reading it, we will find that, reading is reading, words is words, meaning is meaning, but one finds one meaning easy & the other difficult. So that’s how we detect our mind. To say we don’t have time to read, or we can’t read, or I’m not really a reader, I’m not able to read, we have to check if our minds are consistent, if it’s consistent or not.
So if our mind is consistent, in all forms of reading, or maybe we are illiterate but most likely that’s not the case, so the important thing is this; If we come across a difficulty, make it simple, it is difficult because we have not pushed ourselves towards that direction. If we don’t push ourselves towards that direction, we may be losing out on something very great, in the sense of spiritual practice. Some people may go through tremendous spiritual hardships or difficulties throughout their lives, one obstacle after another, one suffering, one letdown after another yet they don’t ever stop practicing. But for them, for worldly things, business or cooking, fishing if they are not successful after a few times, they give up. Why? Because their habitations is not towards that. Some people when it’s towards Dharma practice, they give up very easily, but towards fishing, entertainment, singing, laying around or having a good time, they don’t give up easily. Why?
It’s a clear indication of the state of their mind. Again, I want you to get out of the framework that it’s criticism, it’s not. I’m giving you a guideline to check. It may seem like criticism to some people who’s guilty, self guilty of the actions. They will feel uncomfortable but it’s not criticism from me, why? It’s presentation of information. Presentation of incredible information that we can use as guidelines for our lives. For our relationships, for what we want to accomplish, for the  people around us. Therefore, if we always find something difficult, & in this case I’m talking about spiritual practice, then that can be very dangerous for us. Why?
The mind can make many types of excuses, justifications, covers & fears to not engage in spiritual practice. Or while we are engaging, it’s not sincere or real. And the mind is distracted & we fill our time up by substituting it with other things that will make the time go away. So the important factor is we must examine our minds. We must face our minds. If we don’t face our minds, the people we feel secure around will one day be gone, that’s for sure. That’s definitely for sure, or we will be gone before them, if we don’t confront our minds, the very opportunity we have in front of us like health will be gone, or a dharma centre can be gone or closed, or great monasteries have been destroyed, great teachers die, great masters get killed, so when we have this great opportunity in front of us, and we don’t engage in it, what we need to do is; what I was told by my teacher was; to in fact meditate and contemplate, truly meditate & contemplate on the impermanence on everything around us. Whoever we are attached to, wherever we want to escape to, whoever we want to hold onto , whatever that is, we have to contemplate on its impermanence. Why?
Because it’s the ultimate universal truth. Impermanence is the truth that cannot be taken away by any philosophy or religion. To feel the urgency not to lose the chance, that one is not debatable.”

2 short excerpts from the His Eminence teachings in video 2:

-“So what happens is, if you need to speak up & you don’t speak up, if you are quiet & u let it happen, you expect other people to show you the way, or you expect other people to guide you, give you the directions, & you don’t want to be the leading light, you don’t want to be the direction, you don’t want to make the effort, you expect others to do, & if they don’t, then you will say I didn’t get the direction. Then that’s incorrect. Why is that incorrect? To a certain level you are correct if you’re a child, but if you’re an adult, then no. You must make an effort.

Buddha went to the forest & meditated on his own. He didn’t blame other people if he didn’t get enlightened. He did not.
So therefore, what’s important is not to think that our enlightenment is dependent on how other people act towards me. Or my spiritual development is how important people act towards me. How they act towards me does not contribute to that. Why? Then it’s letting laziness take over again. Then if laziness takes over we become disillusioned, we give up, we don’t want to do or we become like Sunday Practitioners we just recite empty & we don’t actually fight it. This is very dangerous. Why? Cause every other day, you are just yourself, you don’t care, but on Sundays you’re all holy smoley. No. So what’s important is; we need to check our mind, clearly. The direction we are going to & we need to ask ourselves one question. & I use this one cause its fundamental for all of us.
If we love other people the way we say we love, and even if they don’t know what we are doing, we know. Especially after we listen to the Dharma. We know. Do we love the people we love? If we love the people we love, then we will stop making excuses for the lack of transformations, Dharma practice & inabilities, we will stop. If we don’t stop, it’s very clear we don’t love anyone but ourselves. But the ultimate joke is; we actually don’t love ourselves cause in the end we are alone & we suffer even more.
So if we love others, if we love the people we love, repaying their kindness, or even not to burden them, we have to transform ourselves. We have to.”
-“So if we have a Lama who’s kind enough to guide us, shows us the way, with no agenda. We should grab that opportunity. If we have met a Lama or an organization or a place that we feel loved, loved on an Ultimate sense, caring for our future & our rebirths, we should grab that chance.

We should promote it. We should sponsor it. We should help it. We should do all the work we can instead of being afraid of commitments, we shouldn’t be, why? It’s the only strand of hope we have for ourselves & others. & not make excuses. Not let time pass by, lose more hair, we lose more of our energy, and our health, how much time do we actually have left? Even the high Lamas have to pass away, I went to my Guru’s funeral recently, they opened a funeral & I saw his body burning in front of me, it woke me up. Why did it wake me up? I would tell you the truth.
I prayed that I will never have relationships in this life and future lives, never. That would distract me away. May I never have children. Never. I prayed in front of his body. May I never be engaged in work that just focuses on making money. & I prayed that if I’m born in a rich country rich family, poor country, poor family, may I use the circumstances to turn it around to bring Dharma to others. That’s what I prayed for in front of his burning body. You wanna know why?
Because I’m scared. I visualize myself inside there. With my legs and body burning away and melting. Scared. You know even when I see his body burning,  I received a holy teaching.”

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